Christmas Eve Service in Plymouth

Start a new tradition!  Looking for a a Christmas Eve service that you can experience with the whole family?  Join us this year as we host a family friendly Christmas Eve service where you will have an opportunity to sing familiar Christmas hymns, hear scripture readings about Jesus' birth, as well as take part in a multi-media presentation of the meaning of the Christmas Story.

Join us on December 24th at 3:30pm for a FREE and very special event at the Crowne Plaza Minneapolis West in Plymouth MN inside of the Regency Ballroom.  

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Where everyday faith meets everyday life

I am not sure who began the rumor that being a "church person" means that life is always happy and without problems.  Maybe it's because people who consider themselves Christians use the word "blessed" so many times.  And I get the un-churched, de-churched, or quasi-churched this communicates an idea that things are all good, just perfect, or everything is fine.  But here's the reality - at least for the people who call themselves Clarity Church:

We confess that we are just regular people pursuing a way of living that is increasingly learning to submit all of life to Jesus as Lord (he is in control and he calls the shots) and Savior (we trust him to reconcile our relationship to God, and to daily transform us to become more like him and less like the "old self")

So what does that mean?  Well it means that people we call part of the Clarity family experience heartache and heartbreak.  It means that we get diagnosed an ailment that renders us unable to continue volunteering with podcast editing.  It means that we lose our jobs and we lose loved ones.  It means that we experience anxiety and become control freaks.  

It means that we are everyday people trying to engage everyday life with an everyday kind of faith.

At the end of the day we take hope in what people of faith in Christ had taken hope in for nearly 2 millennia.  The Apostle Paul said it best when he said:

21 I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God’s law with all my heart. 23 But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me.24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord.  (Romans 7:21-25)
7 We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves. 8 We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. 9 We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. - 2 Corinthians 4:7-9

How to Tell if Your Child is Ready for Baptism

by John Murchison via 

Baptism is an important step that a believer in Christ takes to share with the world that they are a Christian. As your children see others get baptized, or read about Jesus getting baptized in their Bibles, they may begin to ask if they can get baptized. While this desire is always an occasion to rejoice, it’s important for parents to discern whether or not a child understands and believes the gospel before saying “yes” to this request.

Of course, there is no system or checklist that you can go through to tell whether or not your son or daughter is ready to be baptized. But here are a few questions to help you think and pray through as you consider whether or not to baptize your children:

  • Whose idea was it to get baptized? If your child thinks that you want them to get baptized, they may do it just to please you. If your child wants to get baptized without any prompting from you, that can be evidence of the Holy Spirit calling them to get baptized.
  • Does your child understand the gospel? Do they understand what sin is, and that the penalty for sin has been taken by the death of Jesus? Do they understand that there’s no amount of good works they can do to please God, but that Jesus was perfect on their behalf? Do they understand that Jesus’s resurrection means that there is no more penalty for sin to be paid, and that we can live with God forever through faith in him?
  • Is there evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in your child’s life? When a person is brought to faith in Jesus, the Holy Spirit comes to live in them and begins to change them to make them look more like Jesus. Do you see conviction and repentance of sin? Do you see a love for God and His Word, the Bible?
  • Do you have others that you can process this through with? Obviously, your spouse should be the first person that you pray and discuss this with. But think about involving others as well. It’s a safe bet that your friends and you small group would love to pray with you about this important decision. Your church elders and staff would also be great to talk with.

Releasing the Pressure

I mentioned earlier that deciding whether or not to baptize your child is an important decision. And it is. But I also want you to remember that this is not a life and death decision, and not an eternal life or eternal death decision. The act of baptism itself does not save a person. Only God can do that. And a believer who doesn’t get baptized has not committed the unforgivable sin.

If you’re not sure if now is the right time, then it might be best to hold off. No harm can come to your child by waiting, since it doesn’t impact their salvation. A child who is older will also be able to better articulate their faith, and will better remember this important step of faith.

If your child can articulate what Jesus has done for them, if you see fruit of the Holy Spirit in their lives, and if you and your spouse agree that now is the right time, then there’s no reason to wait. Talk with your family, community, and church leadership to know the best method, time, and place to celebrate your son or daughter becoming your brother or sister in Christ.

Learn About Jesus in the Scriptures

Today we talked about the difference that Jesus makes and one of the takeaway applications was for us to learn more about who Christ is from the scriptures.

Here are a few bible reading plans that you can start.  Don't forget that the scriptures was intended to be studied and learned in the context of community so invite someone who loves and follows Jesus to join you!

Is Jesus Something More? (7 Day Plan)

One man’s life changed the course of history for billions across the globe. Who is this man and what difference does it make? This seven-day devotional explores the life of Jesus Christ and explains why understanding his identity is central to understanding yours. This discipleship tool will enable you to better understand and articulate your faith in Jesus and equip you to walk non-believers through a clear gospel message.

This weeklong devotional features Dr. Ravi Zacharias' reflections on the Gospel of John from his book, "Jesus Among the Other Gods." Dr. Zacharias leads readers to think about who Jesus is and why his identity matters for our lives.

Jesus the King (9 Day Plan)

New York Times bestselling author and renowned pastor Timothy Keller shares a series of episodes from the life of Jesus as told in the book of Mark. Taking a closer look at these stories, he brings new insights on the relationship between our lives and the life of the son of God, leading up to Easter. JESUS THE KING is now a book and study guide for small groups, available wherever books are sold.

BEFORE THE CROSS: The Life of Jesus (80 Day Plan)

God loves us so much that He sent His only Son to die for us. Jesus lived a perfect life, died on the cross paying the price for all our sins, and rose from the dead defeating death and sin. This 80 day reading plan takes you through the four Gospels, in chronological order, walking through the life of Jesus from His birth to His ascension into Heaven.

Haggai the series


Today we began a super short series in the portion of scripture that is popularly known as the book of Haggai.  When it comes to helping people who are disconnected from God come to Clarity on who Christ is, what the book of Haggai has to teach us is paramount.

The question that we all are left asking after today's message was, "What would it look like if we - instead of waiting until we have it all figured out - chose to live out what we already know is God's desire for our lives now?"

Listen to entire message here...


How to: Portable Church Rolling Storage Carts (part 1)

When Clarity Church launched, we were very scarce on capital for some of the things that some church plants have.  We were definitely scarce in capital compared to multi sites and extended campuses.  Despite this reality we knew we needed to create a mobile church system that made it as easy as possible for volunteers to get involved.

We looked at Portable Church Industries, Church in a Box, and Church on Wheels for their mobile storage solutions, but it was just way too expensive.  So what did we do?  We scoped out a couple of churches who owned these "name brand" boxes, wrote down their specs and built them at half the cost ourselves.  Because I know there are many church planters out there who may be in the same situation we were when we launched I want to share the knowledge as much as possible.  More new churches means more new followers of Christ.  So this is a post on how we build out enclosed storage carts.  In another post I'll explain how we built our rolling carts for bins, and then in another I'll explain the cart we built for our lights, and then finally a cart for our pipe and drape.

So here's my best attempt to explain what we did:


This is a 2' x 4'-1/2" cart.  The height of your cart will be determined by your trailer's door height.  We built our carts so that they are 5' 10-3/4' tall. (including casters)


Shopping List

  • (3) 4' x 8' x 3/4" Plywood or OSB (For back, sides, top and bottom)
  • (1) 4' x 8 x  7/16" Plywood or OSB (For front door)
  • (2) 6" Heavy Duty Rigid Casters
  • (2) 6" Heavy Duty Swivel Casters with lock
  • (2) 1-1/2' x 48" Continuous Hinges (also known as Piano Hinges)
  • (16) 5/16" x 2-1/2" Galvanized Hex Bolts
  • (16) 5/16" Galvanized Washers
  • (16) 5/16" Galvanized Nuts
  • (16) 5/16 Galvanized Lock Washers
Galvanized 10D nails
1-1/4" screws
Wood Glue


We used butterfly hinges that we order from Parts Express ( as well as spring flex handles (  you can use other methods for keeping your doors closed and creating a way to "pull" on the carts.

 We found these to be the best and are not too much more than traditional cabinet looks and pulls.  Also, it has been the experience of other church planters that traditional locks that are meant for stationary cabinets do not hold up to the rigors of a mobile church

Cut list:

FYI...this is a cut list for a cart that is a total height of 5' 10-3/4"".

  • (1) 4' x 5'3" x 3/4" Plywood (for back)
  • (1) 4' x 5'3" x 7/16" Plywood
  • (2) 4' x 2' x 3/4" Plywood (for top and bottom)
  • (1) 5' 1-1/2" x 2' x 3/4" Plywood (for sides)
  • (1) 4'x 2' 1-1/8" Plywood (for rigid bottom)

Cut list instructions:






Start by building the top and sides with generous amounts of wood glue and galvanized 10D nails to build the box.  Do not reinforce with screws yet.


Attaching the back: Place the 5'3" x 4' x 3/4" plywood on one side using generous amounts of glue and several galvanized 10D nails.  If you cut your back ply square, not all your corners should be square.  You can use a speed square or a framing square to check your corners.

Once you are confident your corners are square, then begin securing the back to the sides with a generous amount of 1-1/4" screws.  Remember...this thing is going to get moved around a lot and hold your expensive equipment:)

Turn over and do the same thing with the 5'3" x 4' x 7/16" plywood



Sermon on the Mount Resources

The Sermon on the Mount (Matthew chapters 5-7) is the most important sermon of all time.  This is not true just because Jesus was the one who gave it, but this sermon was the foundation that Jesus set for what a life fully submitted to him looks like.  

For those of you who join us at Clarity for this 10 week study, you may want to "geek out" on this passage in more ways than we are able to do so in a 30 minute period one a week.  So here are some resources by theologians and scholars what have submitted their thoughts.

As with any man-made attempts to make commentary of scripture, always be a student and don't automatically take what all these people have to say for truth just because they wrote a book.  Do your homework.  Study tour bible. Pray.  Get in community with other people who follow Christ and love the scriptures and are committed to understanding if for all it's worth.

Here is a list of some resources that you can use to gain more perspective on "What He Said!"

Live Sent ReCap


When Christians are indistinguishable from non-Christians, they are useless for mission. But when Christians intriguethe world they attract the world. (v. 13)


Followers of Jesus are called to be an alternate city within every earthly city; An alternate human culture within every human culture; An alternate kingdom within the kingdom of this world. (v. 14-16)


Jesus came to cast a vision for a truly intriguing life—a life that embodies the kingdom of God right here in the kingdom of this world. (see Matt. 5:17-7:27)


We can only commend Jesus as Lord to the people around us effectively if Jesus is clearly and obviously our Lord.

Do Your Part Recap


sHift // Part 2

“Do Your Part”

January 12, 2014


All followers of Christ have a MINISTRY because all are MINISTERS.


Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ. - Ephesians 4:12


The body of Christ is ALL of us - not just ONE of us.


The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ...Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. - 1 Corinthians 12:12,14


>> What it means to “Do MY Part” at Clarity<<


1) CONNECT with others


By this everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another. - John 13:35


2) Serve on a TEAM


He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love. - Ephesians 4:16



Bottom Line: We DO our part, so others can BE a part.




Matthew 9:37-38

He said to his disciples, “The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.”

Lower The Bar ReCap


The gravitational pull to move from being a a community of people who follow Christ and live their everyday lives as on mission by God to share the message of His grace - His Gospel towards being a "Club for Insiders" is overwhelming.  That is unless a community of people who follow Christ - a Church - decides to commit to doing what James and the Apostles decided to do for those who were turning to God in Acts 15.  They lowered the bar and decided to keep the bottom rungs on the "ladder of faith" so those turning to God would not find it difficult to become followers of Christ.


SHift: Part 1

“Lowering the Bar”

January 5, 2014




“Lowering the Bar” is not about a watering down of standards.  It is actually holding up the standards that existed since the early days of the Church that were based on these convictions:


1. God wants to CONNECT with LOST people

For the Son of Man came to seek and save those who are lost. - Luke 19:10


2. The message of the clarity of the Gospel should always be EASY and ACCESSIBLE

And so my judgment is that we should not make it difficult for the Gentiles who are turning to God. - Acts 15:19


3. The church is a hospital for SINNERS not a hotel for SAINTS.

When Jesus heard this, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” - Mark 2:17



What are you willing to SACRIFICE to ensure we stay on mission?


Memory Verse:

Acts 15:19

And so my judgment is that we should not make it difficult for the Gentiles who are turning to God. - Acts 15:19

1 Corinthians 1:10 Recap

In a letter Paul wrote to encouraged a church he started in a city called Corinth, he wrote:

1 Corinthians 1:10

I appeal to you, dear brothers and sisters, by the authority of our Lord Jesus Christ, to live in harmony with each other.  Let there be no divisions in the church. Rather, be of one mind, united in thought and purpose.

Here is the truth - God desires to reach and bless all kinds of people.  Because of this it seems that he enjoys having a wide variety of churches so that everyone is reached.  This includes people who connect to God in a highly emotional way to those who connect to God in a highly formal way and everyone in between.  Each of us has a part to play in God’s plan, but we all need to know where we fit in this spectrum. 

Specifically, we all need to be of one mind, united in thought and in purpose.  To be clear, unity is not conformity.  Unity is saying that despite our differences in personality, background, or preferences, we decide to work together because we believe that what God could do through all of us has the potential for more than what God could do through just any one of us. 

The reason why I am so excited about our upcoming series is because I believe that will help us continue to see the kind of things we believe God has called Clarity Church to exists for.  For us to be of one mind, united in thought and purpose we need to communicate.  For most of us who follow Christ and call Clarity Church home, it will be the kind of communication you have been longing to hear because it is the same intention that you have had in your heart. 

Be A Scrooge Recap


xmiss: Part 4

"Be a Scrooge"

Luke 19:1-10


Jesus is in the business of bringing hope into a hopeless situation.


“What is impossible for people is possible with God.”

- Luke 18:27


If this is true, then what is true second chances that could prevent us from making an “xmiss” our of Christmas?


1. Jesus came to be WITH US


2. Jesus came to CHANGE our hearts and minds


3. Jesus come to SAVE people


Memory Verse:

Hebrews 12:1

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.


If you missed "Be A Scrooge" at Clarity Church in Plymouth MN then you can watch it below

Don't Shoot Your Eye Out Recap

Clarity Church in Plymouth Minnesota: Don't Shoot Your Eye Out part 3 of the Xmiss series

xmiss: pt 3

“Don’t Shoot Your Eye Out”

Text: Matthew 6:12-15


We can “xmiss” if we don’t take care of what unforgiveness can do to ruin a potential for giving presence . So why do we hesitate to forgive?

  1. It feels GOOD to hold a GRUDGE
  2. We don’t want to get HURT AGAIN
  3. We mistake forgiveness as being an EMOTION instead of a DECISION

What you need understand about forgiveness.


  • Forgiven people FORGIVE
    • "...and forgive us our sins,as we have forgiven those who sin against us.”  -Matthew 6:12


  • You MUST forgive because YOU have been forgiven.
    • "But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” -Matthew 6:15



Colossians 3:13
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Give Presence Recap


Main Idea: Giving presents is good.  Giving PRESENCE is better."

There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving gifts or presents. In fact, in many instances it isn't simply a good thing to do, but it is something that you should do. 

But if giving presence is better than giving gifts - the epitome of what Christmas for westerners is all about - what does it mean to "Give Presence"?

What does it mean to “Give Presence”?

1. Love on PURPOSE 
God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him.

-1 John 4:9

2. Love with SACRIFICE

This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.

-1 John 4:10

3.Love through GRATITUDE
Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.

-1 John 4:11



Ephesians 5:2

And walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God


Ba Humbug Recap



During this Christmas season it is really easy to "ba humbug" through it, and forget the point of it - to make Christmas and xmiss and miss out on what you really hoped this Christmas season to really be about. So during this series we want to take a step back and say, "This is actually about someone's birthday, and have we taken a step back to consider what HE wants?"

1.  We measure our wealth based on AWARENESS.

This is how it will be with whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God. - Luke 12:21

2.  We forget we are MANAGERS - not owners of the resources we have been given.

So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven? - Luke 16:11

KEY QUESTION:  Why has God TRUSTED me with so much?

Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God...They should be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others. - 1 Timothy 6:17-18


1. PRIORITY giving

2. PERCENTAGE giving

3. PROGRESSIVE giving.

Memory Verse:

Matthew 6:25 

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes?

If you missed it, you can watch it below:

The Gospel Is Dangerous Recap

In this message we learn that Paul’s message—the gospel—is dangerous. And for those of us who follow Christ, the measure for whether or not the gospel is working in our lives is not what some may think it means.

It’s very easy to begin to think that God’s plan is to get you saved. And then once he’s done with that, to use you to get someone else saved. Get someone else to have what some people call “a personal relationship with God,” in which Jesus’s death on the cross is applied to you by faith, you get your sins forgiven, you feel better about yourself, and God gets another church attender. Because, after all, that’s why God sent Jesus to die for us, so that we would all attend church more. God’s overarching plan, his mission in this world, is to get people to be nice, stop watching True Blood, probably, and go to church as much as possible.

BUT... If that was God’s mission in the world. Would anyone really oppose it? If God’s mission and the affect of the gospel was merely to make nice, non-HBO-watching, church-goers, would anyone want to stop that?


Title: The Gospel is Dangerous
Text: Acts 19:23-31

  • The gospel is dangerous.
  • God’s mission is to renovate and renew the world, through the gospel of the death and rise of Jesus, which transforms the lives of his followers, who renovate the world around them by speaking words and living lives that anticipate and foreshadow God’s new world.
  • The gospel doesn’t stop.
  • Riots start when bold-hearted, joy-filled, God-drenched Christ-followers start speaking and living in ways that change things.

If you missed this sermon you can watch it below. Please Joint us at Clarity Church in Plymouth MN every Sunday at 10:00 at Kimberly Lane Elementary.


Patch It Up Recap


You were born to care.  This is why reconciling with other - especially members of your family - is a losing battle worth fighting.  For the follower of Christ, we have no other option but to do what God did for us - towards others.  We have no other option because the love that Christ has for us compels us into reconciliation.


Relation…s#*p Series
Part 4 “Patch it Up”

What do we need to understand about reconciliation?

1. You were born to CARE.

2. Saying “I don’t CARE” is a losing BATTLE worth FIGHTING

Why must followers of Christ be people committed to reconciliation?

1. Christ’s love for you LIMITS your options.


For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 

- 2 Corinthians 5:14  


2. Christ’s love compels you to say no to YOURSELF, to say yes to what God is REQUIRING of You.


And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.

-2 Corinthians 5:15 


            - To reconcile means to take two things that are INCOMPATIBLE and make them COMPATIBLE


All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ…

- 2 Corinthians 5:18a 


            - Through Christ, God removed every obstacle to reconciling with US except US



3. Reconciliation is IN SPITE OF...


All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation

-2 Corinthians 5:18a 



“You can be reconciled to God IN SPITE OF your sin - but you can’t be reconciled to me BECAUSE OF your sin.



Romans 5:8

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.


Children Echo Recap


Your actions - of course - speak louder than words but it's not just about the here and now.  It's not even about the next 10 or 15 years. It’s way bigger than that.  

Actions speak louder than words, but you are going to have some actions that will echo into the next generation of your future family whether you are intentional about it or not.  The scriptures would suggest that we can make decisions now that will allow us to influence how the next generation of family lives out the decisions of their lives.  If this is true - that our children will echo our lives into the lives of the next generation, how then should we live?

We are who we are because of the PEOPLE who came before us.

You are somebody’s PREVIOUS generation.

You have a FUTURE family and you are currently making a MARK on that family, whether you intend to or not.

1. The Story You KNOW (Genesis chapters 37-46)

But the Lord was with Joseph in the prison and showed him his faithful love. And the Lord made Joseph a favorite with the prison warden.

- Genesis 39:21

So Jacob’s sons arrived in Egypt along with others to buy food, for the famine was in Canaan as well.  Since Joseph was governor of all Egypt and in charge of selling grain to all the people, it was to him that his brothers came. When they arrived, they bowed before him with their faces to the ground. Joseph recognized his brothers instantly…

- Genesis 42:5-7


2. The backstory CONNECTION you might have missed (Genesis Chapters 25-33)


From that time on, Esau hated Jacob because their father had given Jacob the blessing. And Esau began to scheme: “I will soon be mourning my father’s death. Then I will kill my brother, Jacob.”

-Genesis 27:41


Then the Lord said to Jacob, “Return to the land of your father and grandfather and to your relatives there, and I will be with you.

-Genesis 31:3

1Then Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming with his 400 men. So he divided the children among Leah, Rachel, and his two servant wives. 2 He put the servant wives and their children at the front, Leah and her children next, and Rachel and Joseph last.  3Then Jacob went on ahead. As he approached his brother, he bowed to the ground seven times before him (Esau).  4Then Esau ran to meet him and embraced him, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him. And they both wept.  5Then Esau looked at the women and children and asked, “Who are these people with you?” “These are the children God has graciously given to me, your servant,” Jacob replied. Then the servant wives came forward with their children and bowed before him. Next came Leah with her children, and they bowed before him. Finally, Joseph and Rachel came forward and bowed before him.

-Genesis 33:1-7



Actions don’t merely SPEAK louder that words, sometimes they ECHO in to the next generation



Titus 2:7

And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.

If you were not able to make it for "Children Echo" you can watch it below:


Don't Be "This Guy" Recap

Relationship Series part 2 at Clarity Church in Plymouth MN

Part 2 of 4 in the Relationship Series at Clarity Church in Plymouth Minnesota.

 What if I said that there was a secret to understanding why there are conflicts in the relationships of your life?  What if I said there was one thing you could to that - if we all did it - would immediately bring the temperature down of the arguments and quarrels in our life?  What if what I said just happened to be something that was revealed to us by Jesus’ brother James.

In all of the conflict of our lives, the problem is that we are always wanting something for ourselves that we are not getting.  If we could stop and just admit that the problem in our relationships is that “I’m not getting what I want” - when we admit that it’s OUR problem, and not others - then we are well on our way towards living a life of healthy relationships that God wants for each of us.  

Here are the notes from this weekend:


When you WIN an argument with someone you are in relationships, you don’t really WIN anything.

We all process conflict DIFFERENTLY

                        • PEACEMAKERS

                        • SULKERS

                        • STUFFERS

                        • LITIGATORS

                        • SCREAMERS

As long as there are are RELATIONSHIPS there is CONFLICT


"What is causing quarrels and fights among you?" (James 4:1)

  • Even though there are many kinds of conflict, there is      only one SOURCE of conflict.

  • As long as you BLAME OTHERS for      your unhappiness you will always be unhappy

Don’t they come from YOUR desires that battle within YOU (James 4:1)

  • Conflict always begins INSIDE of YOU.

"You DESIRE but do not have,…" (James 4:2)

  • Every time there is conflict, you WANT something

…So you KILL…” - James 4:2

  • Do you know why you hurt the people that      are closest to you? Because they are CLOSE to YOU

"You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight.” (James 4:2)

  • If you own a SLICE you have to      be NICE.

"You do not have because you do not ask GOD.” (James 4:2)


Who in your relationships is SUFFERING because you are not getting you WAY?


Colossians 3:12

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

If you weren't able to make it on Sunday, you can watch the church service below: