Love Map Question Game

(1)  Play this game together in the spirit of laughter and gentle fun. The more you play, the more you’ll learn about the love maps concept and how to apply it to your own relationship. 

(2)  Each of you should take a piece of paper and pen. Together, randomly decide on twenty numbers between 1 and 60. Write the numbers down in a column on the left-hand side of your paper. 

(3)  Below is a list of numbered questions. Beginning with the top of your column, match the numbers you chose with the corresponding questions. Each of you should ask your partner this question. If your partner answers correctly (you be the judge), he or she receives the number of points indicated for that question, and you receive one point. If your partner answers incorrectly, neither of you receive any points. The same rules apply when you answer. The winner is the person with the higher score after you’ve both answered all twenty questions. 

  1. What is my fondest unrealized dream? (5)

  2. What is my favorite flower? (2)

  3. What is one of my greatest fears or disaster scenarios? (3)

  4. What is my favorite time of day? (3)

  5. What makes me feel most complete? (4)

  6. What turns me on? (3)

  7. What is my favorite meal? (2)

  8. What is my favorite was to spend the evening? (2)

  9. What is my favorite color? (1)

  10. What personal improvements do I want to make in my life? (4) 

  11. Name my two closes friends. (2)

  12. What is my favorite musical group, composer, or instrument? (2)

  13. What was I wearing when we first met? (2)

  14. Name one of my hobbies. (3)

  15. Where was I born? (1)

  16. What stresses am I facing right now? (4)

  17. Describe in detail what I did today, or yesterday. (4)

  18. When is my birthday? (1)

  19. What is the date of our anniversary (or engagement)? (1)

  20. Who is my favorite relative? (2) 

  21. What kind of present would I like best? (2)

  22. What was one of my best childhood experiences? (2)

  23. What was my favorite vacation? (2) 

  24. What is one of my favorite ways to be soothed? (4)

  25. Who is my greatest source of support (other than you)? (3)

  26. What is my favorite sport? (2)

  27. What do I most like to do with time off? (2)

  28. What is one of my favorite weekend activities? (2)

  29. What is my favorite getaway place? (3)

  30. What is my favorite movie? (2) 

  31. What are some of the important events coming up in my life? How do I feel about them? (4)

  32. What are some of my favorite ways to work out? (2)

  33. Who was my best friend in childhood? (3)

  34. What is one of my favorite magazines? (2)

  35. Name one of my major rivals or “enemies”. (3)

  36. What would I consider my dream job? (4)

  37. What do I fear the most? (4)

  38. Who is my least favorite relative? (3)

  39. What is my favorite holiday? (2)

  40. What kinds of books do I most like to read? (3) 

  41. What is my favorite TV show? (2)

  42. Am I right handed or left-handed? (2)

  43. What am I most sad about? (4)

  44. Name one of my concerns or worries. (4)

  45. What medical problems do I worry about? (2)

  46. What was my most embarrassing moment? (3)

  47. What was my worst childhood experience? (3)

  48. Name two of the people I admire most (4)

  49. Name my major rival or enemy. (3)

  50. Of all the people we both know, who do I like the least? (3) 

  51. What is one of my favorite deserts? (2)

  52. What is my social security number? (2)

  53. Name one of my favorite novels? (2)

  54. What is my favorite restaurant? (2)

  55. What are two of my aspirations, hopes, wishes? (4)

  56. Do I have a secret ambition? What is it? (4)

  57. What foods do I hate? (2)

  58. What is my favorite animal? (2)

  59. What is my favorite song? (2)

  60. Which sports team is my favorite? (2) 

*contents of this "question game" from Gottman, John and Nan Silver: The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide From the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999).