Premarital with Phil

GOAL:

To prepare the couple to the best of their ability to engage in the realities of covenant marriage and to equip them with tools for establishing a sound marital foundation.

RESOURCES:

  • Right from the Start: A Premarital Guide for Couples - David and Lisa Frisbee
  • What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage - Paul Tripp
  • Premarital Assessment Tools
  • Any other assessment or tools that are recommended by facilitator.

EXPECTATIONS:

  • Premarital is a prerequisite for a Clarity Church approved officiant but the completion of premarital is not a guarantee that Clarity Church will administer and facilitate a wedding ceremony.
  • Phases 1-2 must occur over a span of 12 hours and be completed no less that 60 days before wedding date (if wedding date is already set) 
  • Each sessions requires that all homework and reading is finished
  • There may be themes that we spend more than one week on, extending the overall length of premarital counseling.  All couples can expect to spend more than one week on at least one theme if not more than one.
  • All homework assignments are prerequisites for the next session.  If all homework is not completed, the session will be canceled and all sessions will be pushed back to the next scheduled meeting.
  • Assessment fees must be paid in full in order for Phase 2 can begin.
 
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SCHEDULE

INTRODUCTION

  • Intake session
    • General overview (past experiences, current assumptions, future expectations)
    • Scheduling future sessions
    • Homework: 
      • Read Preface (Chapters 1-4) of “What did you expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage” Credit Reports 
      • finish Prepare-Enrich Assessment and Disc Assessment

PHASE 1

Session 1

  • THEME: A Right Perspective on Marriage Part 1
    • Homework: Read Chapters 5-8 of “What did you expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage”

Session 2

  • THEME: A Right Perspective on Marriage Part 2
    • Homework: Read Chapters 9-12 of “What did you expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage”

Session 3

  • THEME: A Right Perspective on Marriage Part 3
    • Homework: Read Chapters 13-17 of “What did you expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage”

Session 4

  • THEME: A Right Perspective on Marriage Part 4
    • Homework: 
      • Read Chapter 1-2 of “Right from the Start”
      • obtain credit reports and fully disclose all financial realities

PHASE 2

Session 5

  • THEME: Money in Marriage Part
    • Homework: Read Chapter 3-4 of “Right from the Start”
    • create a budget
    • make decisions about future expectations regarding money.

Session 6

  • RECAP: Go over previous session homework and evaluate experience
    • THEME: Sex and Intimacy
      • HOMEWORK: Read chapter 5-6 of “Right from the Start”
      • go over DiSC profile together

Session 7

  • RECAP: Go over previous session homework and evaluate experience
    • THEME: Managing Conflict
      • HOMEWORK: Read Chapter 7-8 of “Right from the Start”

Session 8

  • RECAP: Go over previous session homework and evaluate experience
    • THEME: The impact of the “how’s” and “why’s” of faith
      • HOMEWORK: Read Chapter 9-10 of “Right from the Start”

Session 9: 

  • RECAP: Go over previous session homework and evaluate experience
    • THEME: Building a “New Family Normal”
      • HOMEWORK: Go over Prepare-Enrich

Session 10

  • RECAP: Go over previous session homework and evaluate experience
    • THEME: Prepare-Enrich Assessment
    • HOMEWORK: Details of wedding ceremony to go over with Phil and next session

Session 11

  • Final Session
    • Planning the wedding details
    • HOMEWORK: Apply for marriage license